Tuesday, June 29, 2010
How to transition when moving in or out
By Julie Wiegan
As leaders in the moving industry, Moishe’s Mobile Storage has seen it all. Here are their tips for surviving the move-in or move-out.
TOP 5 TIPS FOR MOVING IN WITH A SIGNIFICANT OTHER:
Pack and Plan Appropriately
Go through the items you have and decide what you can part with and what you need to invest in. Most importantly, discuss the big items like furniture. Decide before you move in together whether or not you really need the second sofa. Be realistic about what you can and cannot leave behind. Take advantage of old furniture by turning it into a profit and selling it via Craigslist.
Discuss Finances
Sit down and figure out who will pay for what. Are you going to combine bank accounts? What name will the utilities be in? Figuring out these details prior to the move will make the big move in day and subsequent transition easier.
Divide Responsibilities
Responsibilities include cleaning the bathroom, doing the dishes, and a wide assortment of less-than-sexy tasks. Make sure you rotate and take turns in terms of who handles what so you do not resent each other. Turn cleaning time into quality time by setting aside a few hours on the weekend to get things done together.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Divorcees, Are You Ready to Date?
By Sara Moore
If you’re divorced and thinking about dating again, find out whether or not you’re ready. Tonja Evetts Weimer, a relationship expert and author of the new book Thriving After Divorce: Transforming Your Life When A Relationship Ends has identified the top 10 questions to ask yourself in this quiz. See how you do.
Directions:
Score 1-10 (1 is low; 10 is high) for each question. Add up the total at the end and get your results.
Start your quiz by saying the following:
I’ll know when I’m ready to date and meet interesting people that I may want to consider for a future long-term relationship when:
1. I have a network of support
I have friends and family members who love me and support my endeavors. I talk to them often and see them on a regular basis. If I ever have a major problem (sickness, accident, or crisis) I know whom to call.
2. I have cleaned up my past relationships
I have let go of old relationships that are over (better known as “baggage”). They no longer haunt my life. I don’t call my Ex “to see how she is doing.” I have completed my divorce, or said goodbye to the old lover, made peace with my parents, and brought dignified closure to relationships that no longer serve me.
3. I have a career future
I am engaged in a job, studies, or realistic plans that contribute to my career future. I can take care of myself financially, or am well on my way toward that goal.
4. I am open to healthy new adventures
Since dating life is a big adventure, I am open to what lies in store for me. I am brave enough to get out socially and make an effort to talk to people and be friendly. I tell friends and family that I would like to meet someone. I am clear about what is okay with me and what is not, and I am ready to consider new activities.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Move on to the next one already!
With Valentine’s Day approaching, there’s no better time than now to get over your breakup and move on! OnToTheNextOne.com (OTTNO), a free online dating sites helps you do just this. A compliment to other dating websites, OTTNO removes the pressures commonly found in the world of online dating and the stigma against those on the rebound. Here, people can express their interest in dating without pursuing a serious relationship.
“We’re not just a dating website, but provide support and content to help guide people through the path of a relationship recovery,” said David R. Martin, Vice President of Development of OTTNO. “By doing so, we hope to help people achieve self-actualization and become the best person they can be, which naturally leads them to becoming more attractive to the kinds of partners they want.”
Tuesday, November 03, 2009
Everything you always wanted to know about your ex
By Julie Wiegan
Before Sex and the City, there was a book that came out forty years ago that revolutionized how we thought and talked about sex and that book was Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex (But Were Afraid to Ask) by Dr. David Reuben. But what happens when sex and love are over, and you’re left with an Ex? Therapists Heather Belle and Michelle Fiordaliso tell us this and more about the Ex relationship in their new book Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Ex.
Here are Belle and Fiordaliso’s ten signs that you’re not just friends with your Ex:
You think about him all the time (it doesn’t matter if those thoughts are positive or negative)
Sofia sits around daydreaming about her Ex-boyfriend. The only problem: he’s her high-school sweetheart and she’s about to turn thirty-two! That’s too much thinking. Who’s on your mind?
He still pushes your buttons
Cindy is making her fifth trip to the AT&T store. Every time her Ex-husband hangs up without saying good-bye, the phone ends up in pieces. He’s literally pushing her buttons– energy better spent investing in AT&T. Who sets you off?
Tuesday, October 06, 2009
How to deal with emotional vampires
By Sara Moore
According to psychiatrist Judith Orloff, MD, emotional vampires are bad for your physical and psychological health. They lead to such unhealthy symptoms such as overeating and mood swings, isolating and fatigue. Emotional vampires lurk everywhere and wear many different disguises, from needy relatives to workplace bullies. Whether they do so intentionally or not, these people can make you feel overwhelmed, depressed, defensive, angry, and wiped out.
Don’t let emotional vampires suck the life out of you! Here are five types of emotional vampires you’re most likely to encounter and the best ways to defend yourself from them.
Type #1: The Narcissist
This vampire is grandiose, self-important, attention hogging, and hungry for admiration. She is often charming and intelligent, that is until her guru status is threatened.
Self-defense tips:
Enjoy her good qualities, but keep your expectations realistic. Since her motto is “me-first,” getting angry or stating your needs won’t phase her. Get her to cooperate by showing her how your request satisfies her self-interest.
Type #2: The Victim
This vampire thinks the world is against her, and demands that others rescue her.
Self-defense tips:
Don’t be her therapist and don’t tell her to buck up. Limit your interactions and don’t get involved in her self-pity.