12 Anti-Rules of Love

Tuesday, February 01, 2011
By Tricia Stevens


In The Case for Falling in Love: Why We Can’t Master the Madness of Love—and Why That’s the Best Part, author Mari Ruti, Ph.D. advises that we rethink our notions of love.

Against the idea that men and women are “wired” differently, and that men have to be “tricked” into love and marriage, Dr. Ruti offers 12 anti-rules of love:

1. Stop trying so hard
2. Stop being so cautious
3. Stop analyzing your every move
4. Stop expecting your guy to act like a caveman
5. Stop apologizing for being strong
6. Stop being afraid to have needs and vulnerabilities

7. Stop running after guys that don’t want you
8. Stop looking for a guy without issues
9. Stop manipulating the guy you love
10. Stop regretting very false step you ever took
11. Stop thinking of loss as a pure loss
12. Stop trying so hard– yes this is the first rule, but needs to be reiterated

The Case for Falling in Love is now available in bookstores nationwide.

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