How to transition when moving in or out

Tuesday, June 29, 2010
By Julie Wiegan


As leaders in the moving industry, Moishe’s Mobile Storage has seen it all. Here are their tips for surviving the move-in or move-out.


Pack and Plan Appropriately
Go through the items you have and decide what you can part with and what you need to invest in. Most importantly, discuss the big items like furniture. Decide before you move in together whether or not you really need the second sofa. Be realistic about what you can and cannot leave behind. Take advantage of old furniture by turning it into a profit and selling it via Craigslist.

Discuss Finances
Sit down and figure out who will pay for what. Are you going to combine bank accounts? What name will the utilities be in? Figuring out these details prior to the move will make the big move in day and subsequent transition easier.

Divide Responsibilities
Responsibilities include cleaning the bathroom, doing the dishes, and a wide assortment of less-than-sexy tasks. Make sure you rotate and take turns in terms of who handles what so you do not resent each other. Turn cleaning time into quality time by setting aside a few hours on the weekend to get things done together.

Make Sure to Keep your Own Time and Space
Moving in with a significant other can become smothering if you don’t make time for yourself. Make sure to keep plans with friends and schedule activities and outings to keep your own individual life active. The same goes for the apartment, keep some space for yourself. Even when sharing a small studio, having a closest or designated area for your personal belongings will help maintain a certain level of independence.

Keep Things Exciting
When living with someone, it can take a certain level of excitement and mystery out of the relationship. Make a consistent effort to expand dates beyond the couch and even designate certain date nights that involve an exciting night out on the town. Try new things, visit new places, or take a class together. This will help your relationship evolve as you are challenging yourself and continuing to learn new things about each other.


Divide Mutual Items Peacefully
Over the course of your relationship and time as roommates, you likely compiled items that are mutually owned. Instead of fighting over what belongs to whom, sit down and figure out exactly what is shared and what is yours. From there, try to peacefully divide the items, and if an agreement cannot be reached, sell the item and split the cash.

Figure Out Leasing Arrangements
If the lease hasn’t expired, figure out who will stay and who will go. If you both want out, immediately start posting on roommate boards and asking around for a subletter. If all else fails, break the lease. The lease needs to end almost as soon as the relationship does.

Seal Up Any Finances
Figure out all finances before parting ways for good. You don’t want to chase down an ex for money or be forced to stay in each other’s life because you didn’t square away finances from the get go.

Rely on Your Network of Family and Friends
Breaking up can be especially difficult when your boyfriend/girlfriend was also a roommate. Now more than ever you need to rely on friends and family to help get you through difficult times. This might involve sleeping on someone’s couch or having your friends help you find a new roommate and new place. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Get Rid of Leftover Evidence
After dating someone for a while, there is a lot that reminds you of them and these memories multiply after living together. If you are staying in the old mutual place, redecorate and revamp to make the place brand new. If getting a new place, leave behind anything that reminds you of them and pick up a few new pieces to give your new place a personal touch.

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